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Wednesday, June 29, 2016

Children’s Anxiety Checklist

Children’s Anxiety Checklist
                                      Use The following check list to observe your child. This list should not be used as a substitute for professional mental health. This only a guide/reference. Please seek professional help if you have concerns.
o Constant worry about things that might happen
(What if I fall down again, what if my sister gets really sick again and has to go to the hospital?)
o Anger more often than usual
(He looked at me!! I hate him! Why is he looking at me?!)
o Perfectionism
(balling up a piece of paper because of a simple fixable mistake to redo it.  Upset when something is not done the way they want or expected.)
 o Poor memory and concentration
(forgetting to do a task you told them to do not that long ago, or asking you what you told the child to do more than once, completing a task incorrectly after being provided specific/simple instructions.)
o Aggression (verbal and physical)
(destructive on purpose, hitting, kicking, biting, pushing, threats, etc)
o Pessimistic or negative thinking often
(Mommy might get hurt, my teacher is going to give me an F, What if a tornado comes??)
o Restlessness, irritability, tantrums
(Unable to get a good night’s sleep, upset often over things that may seem silly to you)
o Opposition and defiance
(Refusing to do what they are told, testing boundaries, responding “NO!” often)
o Crying
(again… upset often over things that may seem silly to you)

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o Avoidance
(He or she will not go to place, specifically public places or places they have never been to. Scared of new situations) (ex: Excited about a friend’s party until the time comes to go to the party, then refusing to go.)
o Sleep patterns/routine changes
(difficulty falling asleep, trouble sleeping the entire night, nightmares, refusing to go to bed etc)
o Clinginess or fear of separation
(crying, screaming or throwing a tantrum when you attempt to leave, even if only for a moment)
o Procrastination
(“I’ll do it later” “I’ll do it in a minute” “Can I do that tomorrow.”)
o Physical complaints
(stomachaches, feeling tired, headaches, fatigue, sore throat, tightness or tension)
 o Withdrawal from activities and family interactions
(family outings or get-togethers appear to cause uneasiness or stress for the child.)
o Eating patterns/habits have changed
(Hoarding food in room or secret places, won’t eat in front of others, refusing to eat certain types of foods.)
o Over-exaggerating
(I always get into trouble because of other people, I am always last)
o Rigidity and inflexibility, self-criticism, guilty thoughts, etc.
(I can’t do that. No, I didn’t try it but I know I can’t.)


If you have checked 5 or more of these symptoms it may be time for you to seek professional guidance from your child’s primary care doctor for how to proceed with diagnosis and/or treatment.






 
Your child’s pediatrician may refer you to a specialist for further assessment/evaluation



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Saturday, May 7, 2016

Dream Catcher


I  found this cool activity somewhere on Pinterest.  I plan to post a finished product within the next 2 weeks.  and will provide a PDF template that can be purchased on my TEACHERS PAY TEACHERS account. 

Basically you will have the participant write down negative thoughts and beliefs in the large circle.  Next he or she will write positive thoughts and beliefs on the outside of the dream catcher.  

You can enocourage creativity by providing craft feathers and beads for the hanging materials on the page.  yarn can be used to represent the rope or string used in an actual dream catcher.  If you are unable to get feathers, yarn, and beads, they can be drawn with different color markers.  

POSITIVE REINFORCEMENT: How to effectively encourage positive behaviors


POSITIVE REINFORCEMENT

Learning how to provide positive reinforcement for your child can help to create a more positive and ideal BEHAVIORS. Teaching your children that there are consequences for every action teaches them how to think and problem solve for themselves when they are out in the world.
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·         POSITIVE REINFORCEMENT- Simply means encouraging good behaviors

·         CONSEQUENCES- are the result of a behavior. (whether it was a positive or negative behavior)

·         BEHAVIORS- a person’s actions.  (What he or she does or says)

Think about these POSITIVE CONSEQUENCES (or incentives):
Work = Paycheck    
Sleep = Energy   
Medicine = Feeling Better  
Asking for Help = Receiving Help

Examples of POSITIVE REINFORCEMENT can be:


  • High 5
  • Encouragement
  • Praise
  • Hug
  • Thumbs Up
  • Clapping
  • Cheering
  • Privileges
  • Rewards

(Privileges may include extra TV or electronics time, later bedtime, choosing what to eat for dinner, etc.)



*POSITIVE REINFORCEMENT may be the most effective
when provided immediately after a desired BEHAVIOR. *


Examples of BEHAVIORS to Reinforce Positively:

Using manners
Playing Quietly
Asking Permission
Chores
Playing nicely with others
Helping Others
Making an Effort or Trying
Following Directions Immediately



POSITIVE REINFORCEMENT can also be used when a child has not done something correctly. Giving the child praise for what they have done right is more encouraging than putting them down for “failure.”

Example: “I am proud of you for asking permission to eat candy.  Next time can you wait for mommy to finish speaking?”

Example: “I noticed that you picked up some of your toys in your room. I am proud of you for doing your chores.  I see another toy on the floor. Can we put that one with the others?”


Thursday, May 5, 2016

Sense of Peace: 5 Senses Relaxation Activity

I will post a finished product on here before June 1st.
This activity can be used to discuss how to engage the senses when using relaxation techniques.

5 SENSES
SIGHT    TOUCH    SMELL    TASTE   SOUND 


Body Cues: ANGER

Use this activity to determine Body Cues in the child.  
Once the child has identified how their body feels when they are experiencing anger they can then begin to learn to start using their coping skills before it is too late.  

I typically allow my clients to list everything they can think of first. I sometimes then will present video clips of others being angry to help them determine what they may feel inside, and if the client is still unable to come up with body cues I provide examples and ask if they have felt that particular sensation before.

HAVE A HAPPY DAY
AYLA

Square Breathing

This Coping activity is quite simple.  
The child follows along outside edges of the square with their finger; Forcing them to focus on the length of their breaths.  They count to 4 per each side. 

On this particular handout I placed markers for where their finger should be per each count.

This technique can be used anywhere anytime.  When the child is experiencing an unpleasant emotion he or she can do this on their desk, leg, on the floor with their feet, etc. 

PEACEFUL BREATHING
AYLA

Color Time Schedule

(I created this activity to post here on a sheet of paper because I am cheap and refused to buy a clock that I cannot tell time on anyway.  However this activity can be done on a cheap clock that is placed in the child's room.)

MATERIALS NEEDED:
CHEAP CLOCK (that you can color on the inside) 
MARKERS OR CRAYONS
WATER COLOR PAINT (if you are unable to find a clock that opens you can try painting the outside plastic with a water color and you will be able to see through it.

PROCESS:
Determine the child's schedule and routine
Pick a color per activity
Color that time frame on the clock with the matching color
and explain that when a particular hand is in that color it is time to do that activity.

EXAMPLES OF ACTIVITIES
Bath
Dinner, Breakfast, Lunch, Snack 1, and Snack 2
Play/Game Time
Homework
Family Time
Sleep
Wake Up 
Brush teeth
Chores

HAVE A HAPPY DAY
AYLA

What Pushes Your Buttons? Trigger identification

WHAT PUSHES MY BUTTON ACTIVITY SHEET
(The actual activity sheet will be posted to my Teachers Pay Teachers Site for sale by June 1st)


This activity can be used to help the child or participant determine their triggers. 
             I often will have a child do this activity using 1 worksheet per emotion.                   They, then, are able to have a booklet to refer back to. 

Of course allowing the participant to put their own flare into this activity enhances a sense of self,uniqueness, and can make the process more entertaining. 
Allowing he or she to use crayons, markers, etc to fill in the blanks is a great way to encourage CREATIVITY!

HAVE A HAPPY DAY!
AYLA

Thursday, August 27, 2015

Positive Me Puzzle

Here is an example of a self esteem activity to help a client or child identify positive qualities that make him or her who they are. For best effect, have the person cut out the puzzle pieces, mix them up, write a positive quality on each, and put them back together.

The lesson for this activity is to identify that we all have various qualities that make up who we are.

If the child or person struggles to identify positive qualities ask them to identify good qualities that make a good friend or family member. Then ask them to identify whether they exhibit any of those qualities.

Thursday, July 9, 2015

HEART PUZZLE

HEART PUZZLE
I apologize for taking so long to provide info on how to administer this activity.  Hopefully my brilliant readers have found this self-explanatory, but even the best of minds need a little assistance at times...So here it is!!

HEART MAPS/PUZZLE/ WHATEVER YOU DECIDE TO NAME IT...is a fun creative way for a person to identify and explore things they hold true to them.  It can be a representation on their inner most thoughts and feelings.  It can be completed in different ways.  You decide what prompts.  I choose different prompts for different clients depending on age, intelligence, maturity, the goal/objective we are working toward in that particular session, 

Okay, so this activity is quite simple.

1. First you draw a large heart.  I strongly suggest you, the adult, draw the heart outline otherwise you may go through 10 pieces of paper.  In my experience children tend to struggle with the concept of "LARGE".  Be sure the heart is large enough to fit writing.  The younger the child, the larger the writing may be. 

2. Next you draw squiggly lines throughout the heart to give the illusion of a PUZZLE. 

3.  Next you provide the prompt. Think about what you are working toward with the individual. And ask them to write down your list of prompts somewhere near the outside of the heart.  Basically they are making a “map key.”  I strongly suggest you give 3….maybe 4…prompts. You want the participant to be able to list more than one thing for each topic/prompt. (see photo)
Examples…
SELF ESTEEM= I AM GOOD AT/ I CAN WORK TOWARDS/ MY ACCOMPLISMENTS
FAMILY THERAPY= I LOVE/ I TRUST/ I CAN RELY ON/I WISH I KNEW BETTER
GETTING TO KNOW ME= I LIKE/I HATE/I AM GOOD AT/MY DREAMS/ MY FEARS

4. Now, ask them to assign a color to each.  In my example above I have things I do not like represented with the color red because in real life I cannot stand the color read.  Things I want are represented with green because it is my favorite color.  I decided to get creative after doing these over and over.  I made each prompt layered.  Feelings I enjoy are in light green and if I wish to experience them more I surrounded the light green with darker green.   You can choose to allow the person to be creative and do their own thing or be more directed and insist they choose 1 color per prompt.

5. Finally, process and discuss. You can also allow the participant to make a heart depicted what they wish their heart puzzle/map will look like once they have completed treatment. Or what they are hoping their heart will look one day if you are not using this for counseling/therapy.

SUMMARY
1.        LARGE HEART
2.      SQUIGGLY LINES
3.      LIST OF PROMPTS
4.      COLORS
5.       PROCESS/DISCUSS

Thanks for stopping by!!

AYLA