Showing posts with label social skills. Show all posts
Showing posts with label social skills. Show all posts

Tuesday, January 3, 2017

Super New Year, Super New You!

Super New Year
Super New You
 Happy New Year!
This time of year many choose to make resolutions to change something about themselves or their lives that they are not satisfied with. A new yeara fresh new startperfect timing right? Yet, think about how many of your resolutions you remember following through with in the past.

Every hero has their weaknesses.  For those of us in the school system- or  who work with children and teens- it may be a negative mindset, impatience, rigidness, unrealistic expectations, personal problems, or even compassion fatigue.  We as educators have the responsibility of serving as models on how our students can become the best version of themselves.  Take a moment to think about how each of these weaknesses can stand in the way of you being the best version of YOU personally and professionally.

Some super hero qualifications are (but are not limited to):                                                 
Strength-avoid power struggles. Instead show strength by handling negative situations like a Hero! In the face of danger what would Wonder Woman do? Back down? Complain? Play the Victim? Blame others? She would rise to the occasion and demonstrate her ability to rise above whatever obstacle is placed before her.

X-Ray Vision- See through your enemy.  In the academic setting, we have 2 major enemies: Behaviors and Cognitive Capabilities.  Do your best to see past the student, past their behavior, and discover what lies beneath.  Is it frustration? Boredom? Trauma? Family/Home Life? Is it a legitimate inability to learn in a particular way or setting? Now, problem solve to determine a solution.  If you cannot do so alone, consult with your team. That is why we are here!

Secret Elixir- Refrain from using your poison; otherwise known as negative thoughts, beliefs, language, and messages. Student will become who you expect them to become.  Your secret elixir is your own special concoction of positive messages, energy, and experiences you can feed to your students.

Confidence- If you are not confident in your ability to educate effectively, how can your learners feel confident in their own ability to learn and become successful?  The two go hand in hand. Having confidence means having the ability to handle adversity with poise. 

Empathy- Understanding. Responsiveness. The ability to meet students, clients, co-workers, friends and family where they are at as well as being able to understand that we all have our “stuff” and that “stuff” affects each of us in various ways.  It is up to us as the professionals to identify ways in which we can bring out the best in those we serve.

Generosity- Watching others get into the holiday spirit -giving and being selfless- reminds me of when the Grinch’s Heart grew “3 sizes that day.” In real life- your heart growing 3 sizes is probably something to consult your doctor about but your capacity for doing things for others is endless. Many people seem to think their legacy lives on through the things they have accomplished, achieved, gained, etc. I beg to differ. Your legacy lives on through the lives of those you have come in contact with and influenced in some way. Do you want to leave a legacy of students and coworkers who have gone on to be successful because you were able to inspire them in some way? Being generous does not necessarily mean to give material things. Your form of generosity can simply mean giving it your all when it comes to educating.  Challenge yourself to GIVE a little more encouragement, a little more laughter, a little more inspiration, and a little more compassion.

Creativity- What new ways can you discover to do what you do best? Do a little research. Ask others.  Or even ask your students what would make their academic experience more exciting, fun, interesting or at the very leastbearable!

Light-Heartedness- Learn to laugh. Learn to let go.  Learn to look at the bigger picture. How serious was it really?

Humbleness- Having insight to admit when you do not know something or that you are wrong as well as having the ability to give credit where credit is due, will do a lot for your mental stability. Pride creates a false sense of responsibility to prove yourself and a sense of self-worth that is dependent upon your ability to be the best or to avoid failure. Free yourself of that burden and learn to work as a member of a team whose players all have various skills, strengths, and areas of growth to attribute to the common goal; THE STUDENTS.

Dedication- Above all, dedication to your craft and profession will mean you will do everything in your power to be the best version of you who helps create the best version of them!
So
What’s your Super Power?

xoxo
Ayla V. Expose

Saturday, May 7, 2016

Dream Catcher


I  found this cool activity somewhere on Pinterest.  I plan to post a finished product within the next 2 weeks.  and will provide a PDF template that can be purchased on my TEACHERS PAY TEACHERS account. 

Basically you will have the participant write down negative thoughts and beliefs in the large circle.  Next he or she will write positive thoughts and beliefs on the outside of the dream catcher.  

You can enocourage creativity by providing craft feathers and beads for the hanging materials on the page.  yarn can be used to represent the rope or string used in an actual dream catcher.  If you are unable to get feathers, yarn, and beads, they can be drawn with different color markers.  

Thursday, May 5, 2016

Square Breathing

This Coping activity is quite simple.  
The child follows along outside edges of the square with their finger; Forcing them to focus on the length of their breaths.  They count to 4 per each side. 

On this particular handout I placed markers for where their finger should be per each count.

This technique can be used anywhere anytime.  When the child is experiencing an unpleasant emotion he or she can do this on their desk, leg, on the floor with their feet, etc. 

PEACEFUL BREATHING
AYLA

Color Time Schedule

(I created this activity to post here on a sheet of paper because I am cheap and refused to buy a clock that I cannot tell time on anyway.  However this activity can be done on a cheap clock that is placed in the child's room.)

MATERIALS NEEDED:
CHEAP CLOCK (that you can color on the inside) 
MARKERS OR CRAYONS
WATER COLOR PAINT (if you are unable to find a clock that opens you can try painting the outside plastic with a water color and you will be able to see through it.

PROCESS:
Determine the child's schedule and routine
Pick a color per activity
Color that time frame on the clock with the matching color
and explain that when a particular hand is in that color it is time to do that activity.

EXAMPLES OF ACTIVITIES
Bath
Dinner, Breakfast, Lunch, Snack 1, and Snack 2
Play/Game Time
Homework
Family Time
Sleep
Wake Up 
Brush teeth
Chores

HAVE A HAPPY DAY
AYLA

What Pushes Your Buttons? Trigger identification

WHAT PUSHES MY BUTTON ACTIVITY SHEET
(The actual activity sheet will be posted to my Teachers Pay Teachers Site for sale by June 1st)


This activity can be used to help the child or participant determine their triggers. 
             I often will have a child do this activity using 1 worksheet per emotion.                   They, then, are able to have a booklet to refer back to. 

Of course allowing the participant to put their own flare into this activity enhances a sense of self,uniqueness, and can make the process more entertaining. 
Allowing he or she to use crayons, markers, etc to fill in the blanks is a great way to encourage CREATIVITY!

HAVE A HAPPY DAY!
AYLA

About Me Book (Simple)

Here is an example of an about me book i create with kids. It allows them the chance to begin identifying what makes them unique. It helps to create a sense of identity. Depending on the particular client and situation I will either give them a blank book and allow the child free range OR i write the prompts in the book (my middle name is, i like to, i do not like to...etc) for them because i am seeking specific information.

MATERIALS NEEDED:
  • Colored Paper (card-stock preferred for sturdiness but not necessary)
  • White printer paper
  • Crayons, markers, paint, color pencils etc
Extra items may include: oil pastels, stickers, glitter, puff paint, photos, etc. 


EXAMPLES OF PROMPTS ARE: ( but not limited to...:)
MY MIDDLE NAME IS...
MY FRIENDS...
MY FAMILY...
MY SCHOOL...
I LIKE TO...
I DO NOT LIKE TO...
I AM GOOD AT...
I CAN IMPROVE...
ONE DAY I WILL...
MY COPING SKILLS ARE...
MY FEARS ARE...
IN SCHOOL I...
MY DREAM IS TO...
IF I HAD ONE WISH...
IF I WERE AN ANIMAL...
MY FAVORITE COLOR IS....

These examples are probing, open-ended questions that can help you to obtain some pertinent information about the child.
Have a happy day
Ayla

Friday, July 31, 2015

Conversation Starters -Social Skills

              ~~ !!!!! SCHOOL'S BACK !!!!!~~


70 CONVERSATION STARTERs
Ever felt nervous when you first met someone, because you didn’t quite know what to say?  Here is a list of questions to get a good conversation started with a potential new friend. (Kids and teens may wish to practice on their family, friends, pets, counselors, social workers, or therapist, etc.)
    BE PREPARED to have to answer the questions yourself.
If you wish to be creative print out this list, cute each line into strips, ball them up and place them in a bag or box so that you will not know what question  is coming next
1.    Did you have a nickname? How did you get it?
2.  Do you do when you feel anxious? (I.e. nail biting, hair twirling, leg shaking, pacing, etc.)
3.  Do you have a hobby? What do you do in your free time?
4.  For you, what was the worst thing about being a (insert grade or year in school)?
5.  Have you ever committed a RAK? Random Act of Kindness? Explain…
6.  How often do you check your media outlets vine? Instagram? Pinterest? Kick? E-mail? Facebook? Texts?
7.  How would you describe your “style”?
8.  If one of your 5 senses could have supernatural abilities, which one sense would you choose?
9.  If you could be one age for the rest of your life, how old would you choose to be?
10.       If you could change one thing about your school, what would it be?
11.  If you could choose anyone name 2 people you would take on a road trip.
12.        If you could cure one type of disease, which one would you cure?
13.If you could design the perfect TV channel, what would be on it?
14.        If you could guest star on any Reality TV Show, which one would you choose?
15.        If you could have any animal in the world as a pet, what animal would you choose?
16.        If you could have any one super-power, which one would you choose and why?
17.  If you could invent a holiday, what and when would it be?
18.        If you could plan your own birthday part, what would you do?
19.        If you had $10 to spend, how would you spend it? $100? $1000?
20.     If you had a theme song (one that played every time you entered a room), which song would 
    you choose?
21.        If you had a YouTube channel what would you call it?
22.      If you had an unlimited gift card to any store, which store would it be?
23.      If you were stuck on Stranded Island, what are 2 things you would bring with you?
24.      Name 3 tv shows you have recorded on your DVR? Netflix? HULU?
25.      So far who has had the most positive influence on you?
26.     What are 3 qualities you want your friends to have?
27.      What are some positive changes you have seen in your life?
28.      What cartoon character do you most identify with?
29.      What do you plan to do when you graduate?
30.     What do you struggle with the most in life?
31.   What helps you to feel most content or peaceful?
32.      What is one gadget or electronic you’d like to own?
33.      What is one of the most adventurous things you’ve ever done?
34.      What is one regret you have from last week? Last Month? Last year? Your lifetime?
35.      What is one statement that you hope people will say about you when you are no longer    
     around?
36.      What is one thing you wish you had more time for in your life?
37.      What is one thing you’ve never done that you would really like to do?
38.      What is some place that you would really like to visit?
39.      What is something you are looking forward to doing within the next six months?
40.     What is something you like about yourself?
41.        What is the funniest thing that has happened to you recently?
42.      What is the most important thing that makes a friendship great?
43.      What is the most recent book you read?
44.      What is the scariest thing you’ve ever seen in real life?
45.      What is your earliest memory?
46.     What is your favorite animal?
47.      What is your favorite ice cream flavor and your favorite topping?
48.      What is your favorite thing to do with friends?
49.      What is your goal in life? Or goals?
50.     What is your least favorite chore to do?
51.         What is your most favorite possessions?
52.      What makes you feel discouraged or insecure?
53.      What one thing would you change about your house if you could?
54.      What songs are on your recently played playlist right now?
55.      What was the worst thing about being in middle school for you?
56.     What would you like for your life to be like 5 years from now? 10 years from now? 50years?
57.      What’s one thing that annoys you about your siblings or cousins?
58.      What’s one thing you like about your Mom?
59.      What’s one trait you admire about your Dad?
60.     What’s the biggest struggle you are facing in life right now?
61.        What’s the furthest place you’ve ever been from your current home?
62.     What’s the most annoying word or phrase your parents or teachers use often?
63.      What’s your dream car?
64.     When is something you must get from the grocery store, no matter what?
65.     When you are surprised with 30 free minutes during the day, how do you spend it?
66.     Where state and city were you born in?
67.      Who do you wish would listen more closely to you?
68.     Who is the most important person in your life?
69.     Who’s someone you admire/respect? Why? (not a family member)
70.     Your first job will be…?

Thursday, July 9, 2015

SELF ESTEEM VIDEO COMPILATION FOR YOUNG GIRLS AND TEENS

HI!

I Decided to put together a collection of positive self esteem videos that can be used to introduce, discuss, and practice raising self esteem.  For now, This post is mainly for girls, however it can be used for anyone with a little discussion.  (Boys, no worries, you'll be next!)

Here are a good bunch of videos to start a good discussion.  Allow the child or teen to reflect on what they saw in each video, what message they took away, how it relates to their life...etc.

**DISCLAIMER** Please preview any video you wish to present to a child beforehand to ensure that the content is appropriate.  Be prepared to address any questions, comments, or concerns that may be triggered.

Enjoy!


                                       Always #likeagirl campaign (superbowl)

 
 
Always #likeagirl campaign (2015)
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
Disney's #iamaprincess campaign.
(Their way of changing the way we THINK about what it means to be a Princess.)
 
 
 
 
 
Amazing speech about self esteem from a young girl
 
 
 
 
Live It Up,
Ayla
P.S. As I come across more I will add them.  Feel free to share this page or comment/email me with any good videos you all come across!

HEART PUZZLE

HEART PUZZLE
I apologize for taking so long to provide info on how to administer this activity.  Hopefully my brilliant readers have found this self-explanatory, but even the best of minds need a little assistance at times...So here it is!!

HEART MAPS/PUZZLE/ WHATEVER YOU DECIDE TO NAME IT...is a fun creative way for a person to identify and explore things they hold true to them.  It can be a representation on their inner most thoughts and feelings.  It can be completed in different ways.  You decide what prompts.  I choose different prompts for different clients depending on age, intelligence, maturity, the goal/objective we are working toward in that particular session, 

Okay, so this activity is quite simple.

1. First you draw a large heart.  I strongly suggest you, the adult, draw the heart outline otherwise you may go through 10 pieces of paper.  In my experience children tend to struggle with the concept of "LARGE".  Be sure the heart is large enough to fit writing.  The younger the child, the larger the writing may be. 

2. Next you draw squiggly lines throughout the heart to give the illusion of a PUZZLE. 

3.  Next you provide the prompt. Think about what you are working toward with the individual. And ask them to write down your list of prompts somewhere near the outside of the heart.  Basically they are making a “map key.”  I strongly suggest you give 3.maybe 4prompts. You want the participant to be able to list more than one thing for each topic/prompt. (see photo)
Examples…
SELF ESTEEM= I AM GOOD AT/ I CAN WORK TOWARDS/ MY ACCOMPLISMENTS
FAMILY THERAPY= I LOVE/ I TRUST/ I CAN RELY ON/I WISH I KNEW BETTER
GETTING TO KNOW ME= I LIKE/I HATE/I AM GOOD AT/MY DREAMS/ MY FEARS

4. Now, ask them to assign a color to each.  In my example above I have things I do not like represented with the color red because in real life I cannot stand the color read.  Things I want are represented with green because it is my favorite color.  I decided to get creative after doing these over and over.  I made each prompt layered.  Feelings I enjoy are in light green and if I wish to experience them more I surrounded the light green with darker green.   You can choose to allow the person to be creative and do their own thing or be more directed and insist they choose 1 color per prompt.

5. Finally, process and discuss. You can also allow the participant to make a heart depicted what they wish their heart puzzle/map will look like once they have completed treatment. Or what they are hoping their heart will look one day if you are not using this for counseling/therapy.

SUMMARY
1.        LARGE HEART
2.      SQUIGGLY LINES
3.      LIST OF PROMPTS
4.      COLORS
5.       PROCESS/DISCUSS

Thanks for stopping by!!

AYLA